Beautifully said. That idea that asking for help can be a gift instead of a burden is a powerful reframe. Many of us are taught to apologize for our needs, when what we really deserve is connection and support.
So many people walk around apologizing for having needs, like needing help makes them a burden. But it doesn’t. It makes them human.
And the part about asking for help being a gift really hit me. Because love should be allowed to show up. Real love doesn’t make you feel like you’re too much. Real love makes room for you.
You deserve access. You deserve patience. You deserve support without shame attached to it.
And honestly, we all need to hear this in our own way. Because so many of us have built walls around our needs just to survive.
I can SO relate to & understand all this! It's a sad fact that us disabled people think we're "in the way", a "burden", an "inconvenience" in this life. But I've also come to realise that those who love & know us the most, actually NEVER think it!! They appreciate us in EVERY way. We still contribute to their lives, every single way. They still love & need US. And something more...my disability has made my children (all adults & moved out now!) more understanding, more caring, more compassionate & empathetic to EVERYONE. They never judge. They never see my "wheels". They only see ME. I'm still their Mum. And now I'm also a grandmother. They've never known any difference. I'm JUST "Mamma". I find humour has helped me. It's dark & wicked at times! But that's also ok. We are still us inside. The only thing that's different is my mobility. And it doesn't stop me being a wife, a mum, a Mamma...we just find different ways to overcome any obstacles. At the end of the day, DIS-ability doesn't ever mean IN-ability..😉🙏 xxx
Beautifully said. That idea that asking for help can be a gift instead of a burden is a powerful reframe. Many of us are taught to apologize for our needs, when what we really deserve is connection and support.
This is powerful and real.
So many people walk around apologizing for having needs, like needing help makes them a burden. But it doesn’t. It makes them human.
And the part about asking for help being a gift really hit me. Because love should be allowed to show up. Real love doesn’t make you feel like you’re too much. Real love makes room for you.
You deserve access. You deserve patience. You deserve support without shame attached to it.
And honestly, we all need to hear this in our own way. Because so many of us have built walls around our needs just to survive.
Thank you for speaking this truth. It matters.
Thank you for sharing in it 💛
Yes, to all of this. Showing up without shame or apologies has been, and continues to be, quite a process for me.
Also, asking for help is indeed a gift!! ✨
I can SO relate to & understand all this! It's a sad fact that us disabled people think we're "in the way", a "burden", an "inconvenience" in this life. But I've also come to realise that those who love & know us the most, actually NEVER think it!! They appreciate us in EVERY way. We still contribute to their lives, every single way. They still love & need US. And something more...my disability has made my children (all adults & moved out now!) more understanding, more caring, more compassionate & empathetic to EVERYONE. They never judge. They never see my "wheels". They only see ME. I'm still their Mum. And now I'm also a grandmother. They've never known any difference. I'm JUST "Mamma". I find humour has helped me. It's dark & wicked at times! But that's also ok. We are still us inside. The only thing that's different is my mobility. And it doesn't stop me being a wife, a mum, a Mamma...we just find different ways to overcome any obstacles. At the end of the day, DIS-ability doesn't ever mean IN-ability..😉🙏 xxx
I relate ti to this a great deal